We are Finally Getting the rain
Rodeo Day
Why Me?
Why am I the one he calls late at night?
Why am I the one the one he can talk to for hours and still not run out of things to say.
Why am I the one who will listen and talk to him for hours on end and enjoy the conversations.
Why am I the one he invites out for drinks ... or for a late night drive?
What did I do in the first place that made him think that he should call me? Was it something I said or did? .. or something I didn't do?
Was it a look that he misread?
What did I do?
Don't get me wrong I have always liked and respected this man a lot. It's not that I wouldn't have fun on a late night drive or have fun if we went out for drinks ... the cold hard truth is ... I'm having a very hard time dealing with the fact that the very same man that is asking me to do these things is a very well known man in our community ...... A VERY MARRIED man of our community to be exact! And I once even defended him against comments made by a co-worker of mine that he cheats on his wife! I have known this man my whole life and NEVER thought he had it in him.... I am just so shocked, it is beyond belief. Am I that blind or has this behavior just started?
I can't even tell for sure when the calls actually changed from "farm related" business to "just wondered .....". He if a farmer and I have called him on different occasions to ask for help with things here and also for hay for the animals. The first actual Red Flag that I got was this past Monday night when he called me at 10 pm and didn't seem to want anything related to farming and didn't even seem interested in talking about it when I said " I assume that you called because of ..." Somehow he turned the conversation into talking about going out to the bar. When I told him that I don't do that anymore he started asking why and told me I'm too young to not be having fun. Then somehow the subject of him buying me a drink came into play and told him that he could buy me a drink the next time he sees me out at the bar... in my mind I"m thinking "i rarely go out so what are the chances of me seeing him there anyway. Even when I used to go out every weekend I rarely saw him out"... He then started asking "We are going to do this right?" "When".
Now remember.... he has been a family friend my whole life and I have NEVER had any reason to think that he would ask me or anyone else out for anything but a friendly social drink... "among family" sort of thing. So at that point I still wasn't thinking too much about it, until at the end of the conversation I said I had to go and he said "Well now that you have my cell number you can leave me a message anytime."
HELLO!..... Those words were like sirens going off! I have known his home phone number by heart probably since grade school when I was in his sons class. So why all of the sudden is he thinking that I need to call him for anything that I can't leave a message with his wife or on his home answering service?
I know I am very trusting ... but I honestly thought our community still had at least one true gentleman left...... I GUESS I WAS WRONG :-(
